Thank you for the welcome, Mr. Hughes!
You're so blessed to be loved by such an aunty... I'm sure you have lots of unburied treasure in your head and heart, and she can see it! Your posts here have been wonderful to read; thanks for your openness.
I'm with you much about temple aunties. One of the most wonderful Daoist teachers I've known was an old granny such as yours, in an obscure temple I don't have opportunity to visit much anymore. She didn't make cakes, but taught a young me how to make lotuses out of joss paper... All day, as the sun shown, quietly except for an occasional muttered incantation or holy name. "Self-thus/natural" indeed!
You remind of what Most High Lord Lao did say, "雖名得道，實無所得。為化眾生，名為得道。" (Although it's called Attaining Dao, actually there's no such attainment. It's the transformation of beings, which is called Attaining the Dao.) Wherever you wander with your stick, I hope it's on mountains which bring you transformation. :>