It's so nice to see old names and faces...
Here is my take on my very short Abbey experience. My husband and I arrived in 1972, promptly became monks, then pregnant and within a year had left so that we could support our family by working in Eugene, where we were affiliated with the Singers at the Eugene Priory. We stayed involved, helped finance and worked on Kannon Del, and when our son was 2 we planned to move back and continue our training. When we arrived we realized that we were not ready to turn over the responsibility of parenting to a group. Within 24 hours we left and went back to Eugene.
Now I must say that I was treated with great kindness by Roshi and others all along. When I became pregnant she congratulated us and said that's what married couples should do. When we decided to leave Kannon Del the message I got was that doing the training of a householder was second only to that of a monk, and she wished us well.
Fast forward - we have been married 40 years, our son is 37 and has two sons of his own. They live nearby and fill my heart with wonder. I am retired (worked as a librarian) and now teach horseback riding to youngsters.
Best wishes to all
Ann Kyujo Warrington Trivelpiece